Dear Little Chatterboxes,
Oh! I sure do love hearing you two while you’re playing!! Until I hear you start to argue. You might ask what that sounds like with an 19 month old and a four year old. Let me explain…
Jojo, you are all fire! I see you thrive on the attention of your sister, even when it isn’t positive! I watch you run up, grab her toys, and run away. And I listen to that nonsense talk as you tell her what you think. Someday, we are going to know exactly what you think! Until then, you keep practicing that little, “No!” with just as much passion as you use it now. It will come in handy when you’re older.
And Ale, my little ice princess! If you would just involve your sister a little more in your play, she wouldn’t wreck havoc. Yes, I know that is your office. Yes, I see that you laid out all your supplies on your desk. But Josie doesn’t understand that the doll stroller is your office chair. And she certainly doesn’t understand why she can’t use your colored pencils and special office pen!
Oh, now you’re friends again? Okay, because five minutes ago you were sworn enemies…
Ahhh…sweet girls, you have no idea what is in store for you.
I want you to grow up knowing how to communicate. I want you to be able to talk to each other about your wildest secrets and your deepest fears. I want you to hold each other when you are sad, and keep each other in line when the temptations of the world start to call. I want to see you grow strong, but stay tender (because God can work best with a tender heart, but strength is needed for you to stand up for yourselves…and each other).
I know that someday soon I will need to fuss about how you need to stop talking and just go to sleep. I know that someday soon, you’re going to start asking for cell phones, iPads, or the latest fad in technology (don’t bother…). I know that your arguments will grow from toys to bigger issues. But for the sake of your parents, not too big please…
Girls, don’t forget to lace your words with kindness! Someone asked me if I would rather have a smart child or a kind child, and without a doubt–kindness wins! Moments of kindness are what will remind you of your great love for one another. Arguments will come, but time will pass way too quickly. Soon you will be like Mama and your aunties. You will reach the day where you realize it isn’t worth the argument, but it is always worth the love. More love. More kindness. More love. Less judgement. More love.
Can we practice this now?
My little girls, you never know where life will take you. Someday you might find yourselves far away from each other. Someday you will surely find yourselves without your mama and daddy. Someday you might complain when your sister pulls up her skirt to show off her legs, then defend her with your might when someone else dares to tease her. Someday you might decide to share a home and responsibilities. Someday you might find yourself companions in God’s work (I could only wish this with my inmost desires and prayers). Someday you might watch your children grow together.
One thing is for certain: for as long as you both live, your sister will be YOUR person. No one else will know your past, understand your present, and look forward to your future the same way as your sister will.
So chatter away, little lovies. Chatter away about the rain, your babies, and your chicks. Chatter away about sharing. Chatter away as you bathe, play, and eat. Your chatter fills your mama’s heart with joy, so chatter away.