I deleted Facebook on purpose: your posts about the election always upset me. Rather than engage in social media arguments with you, I chose silence and distance. But I opened Facebook the day after the election.
I, not only saw the Fox News rhetoric, but saw a complete and utter lack of empathy for those of us who are hurting due to the election results. This explanation is for you: my white friends.
I call you my white friends because that is what you are. None of my Latino friends say the things you do. None of my black friends are posting begging us to “give Trump a chance.” None of my gay and lesbian friends (albeit white) have asked us to move on.
Only you: my white friends.
I am going to tell you what the Black Lives Matter movement told you, but you didn’t hear. Your white privilege (yes, this is a real thing) protects you in ways that you don’t understand. I understand why you don’t understand. I didn’t “get it” either. And then I began to think of my Mexican children. I began to think of my African students. I began to think of my non-Christian friends.
See, that’s what empathy is: empathy is stepping out of your own shoes and trying on another pair. Then empathy requires you to say, “Wow! Yeah, the world looks at me differently here. What a bummer!” Empathy allows you to return to your zapatitos and still remember, feel for, and understand the way someone else feels.
I haven’t seen that from you. Instead there are posts about giving Trump a chance. Posts about respecting our commander in chief no matter who he is. Posts about how Trump’s voting population wasn’t created from hateful people. Posts about how we all need to move on and get over it. Posts about how Trump wants to bring us together.
And that tells me you don’t get it.
I don’t understand: we could see with each speech how Trump belittled those who didn’t look like him. We heard story after story about him encouraging violence against anyone who believed differently and dared to say so. In fact, they weren’t merely stories: we saw video evidence! We heard his “plan” for deportation of Latinos, elimination of equal rights to marry, and registration of Muslims.
So why don’t you understand the fear those people have?
It isn’t unjust fear! They were told, as were you and I, that life would be different for them if Trump was elected. Of course they are afraid! and sad! and worried!
Giving Trump “a chance” is a little hard when he’s told you your time is up. Respecting a man who has so little respect for others in near impossible if you are the others. Believing that you, his voters, aren’t hateful or ignorant is difficult when his entire campaign was built on a solid foundation of hate: beginning with hate and ending with hate. Moving on and getting over it isn’t an option–as the next four years we are bound to this joke of a “leader.” And trusting him to bring us together is equally laughable (except none of this is laughable) because he has done his best to drive a wedge between us: painting a picture of what American should be from the eyes of a privileged white man.
This isn’t about Hillary Clinton and her loss. This isn’t about Bernie Sanders and his revolution. This is about one man who has caused hurt and fear in millions of people–not just Americans, but all over the world. This is real. This is scary. Try to understand that, would you?