When I quit my job last August, it was a necessity. Over the next few months I learned a lot about myself and what I should do to alleviate stress in my life. In his management course, Zack also learned that it is “the number one killer.” I believe it–as my body was slowly falling apart!
So, what do you do when life throws you a curve ball? Or in my case, when the balls keep coming and you are standing on home-plate? Sssswing! Batter, batter, batter!
This is what I am learning to do:
1). Read the signs.
When I finally calmed down this fall, I realized that my body no longer ached. This was amazing! When I get stressed, not only am I irritable, but my muscles in my neck tense up. When this happens now, I know I should “take a break.”
2). Be satisfied.
There are a lot of things that I want for myself: 1) To be able to pay the bills. 2). To be “the best” at everything I do. 3). To have a social life. I am finally learning what my Mama has said all along, “Just do your best. That’s all you can do.” So instead of stressing because my school loans are 30 days late–I am [not so patiently] waiting for either an awesome tutoring job or my income tax money. Instead of comparing my rascals to other classes, I am trying to enjoy what they do have to offer. And to understand that teaching boys requires different strategies. Instead of worrying about saying “Yes!” every-time my friends go away for a trip or on vacation, I’m learning to say “No.”
3). Save a little time for me.
This is important. Yesterday, I taught. Left school for one tutoring job. Tutored. Rode a convey home. Walked about a mile before I asked for a taxi. Took a taxi to another job. Tutored. Took a taxi home. Sat down to eat with my roommates. By the time I went to sleep, I barely have a recollection of it. I knew last night as I stared at my GRE books that I needed to make a change before it was too late.
4). Secure my own oxygen mask before helping others.
This is super important. I had my friend call the first tutoring job and see if she can come to me. I felt really bad about it! The thing is, I want to help her! I believe in what she is doing, and I support anyone who is working hard towards a personal goal. I also know that if I am tired, moody, and less-than-my-best, I won’t be much of a help!
5). Have healthy habits.
One of the things I love the most about living here is that I walk everywhere. This is great when you need some endorphins! I also am trying to eat healthy. I realized while I don’t eat a lot–I’m not eating as many veggies as I did in Tennessee. I’ve also been drinking soda again, although it doesn’t have high fructose corn syrup here. I still don’t need the sugar. I need to bring some Lipton or Luzianne tea back from the states next time. The tea bags I bought were (are) weak.
Entonces, ahora necesito cambiar para mi. I need to change for me. (Disclaimer: my Spanish is improving, but I still have a lot to learn! Please don’t hesitate to correct me!) I want to keep enjoying my Mexico trip without becoming worn out like I was in Fairfax County! So, here is my wish for you: When life pitches you something ugly, and you forgot your helmet at home–just swing away! It’s better to go down trying!