Growing up, I only knew two cheeses: Sharp Cheddar and Mozzarella (I don’t mean fancy, fresh mozzarella either–I mean the really processed kind you put on spaghetti and lasagna.) When I moved to NOVA (Northern Virginia), I felt like I had been liberated! I was so surprised to find out that so many cheeses existed! Jenny and I would buy Triple Cream Brie, Aged Cheddar, Gouda, sigh… Life was so good letting go of my old cheese and loving the new.
Yesterday I decided to read Who Moved My Cheese. (Note: When your mom is a counselor, self-help books are everywhere. ) It was pretty sneaky really–I thought it would be about people who are Obsessive Compulsive. That’s my Elementary Education experience that made me jump conclusions: We teach kids to use prior knowledge to predict books based on the cover. Naturally, I think of OTHER people–people who worry about the placement of their possessions…
If you are going through a Quarter Life Crisis and bemoaning your current life situation, DON’T READ THIS BOOK!
That is, don’t read this book unless you want to actually stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. It was an easy read–and it’s all about dealing with disappointments that come our way. Really, it’s less about dealing and more about moving on. Along the way, there are little nuggets of wisdom. Such as: The more important your cheese is to you, the more you want to hold onto it and, The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese.
The fact of the matter is, life changes! That’s what happens. When you are like me (a planner of life), you like to know what is around the next corner. In fact, you probably THINK you know what the future holds. We never know what tomorrow brings. We can only control how we choose to act–we really have no control over other people, unplanned circumstances, and the unknown. The sooner we can let go, the faster we heal. And healing is good!
So often I think of the last couple years, and wish that I could turn back time. That certainly isn’t the healthy way to approach life. I can’t control the past. I can only control what I do now. I can analyze and gaze longingly at my old cheese, or I can get ready to experience the best cheese of my life.
Note: I do think that we should allow what we’ve learned from the past to guide our future choices. That is healthy and smart! Just know that every situation is unique, and just because you’ve seen something once doesn’t mean that it will be the same the second time around.